The COPE Foundation

COPE Healing Tip of the Month

From COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever, PhD, LCSW

Every day thousands of people participate in grief support online. This might be in a forum, a message board or on a Facebook page. This support can be great, especially when it is used together with some form of face to face support, like a group or individual therapy session. But it’s important to recognize that all websites are not equal. How do you know that the site you find is safe, reliable, and offers accurate information? Here are some precautions you can take before deciding to join any online grief forum or message board:

Investigate before you participate. Does that have a sponsor? What are they selling? Is the site moderated? Read about the moderators to learn about their background, education, training, licensure and certification. Make sure they have experience in facilitating groups and knowledge about the normal grief process. Read some posts written by the moderators to get a sense of their approach to grieving people. Make certain that the group or forum you select is made up of mourners with whom you can identify. Read some of the posts in a given forum to decide if you can relate to the people gathered there. Look for a statement of the group’s purpose and its “ground rules.” These should appear on the site’s main (or “home”) page.Look for an option that enables you to report to the moderator(s) any post that you find objectionable. Use your own good judgment and common sense. If something doesn’t feel right, if you don’t feel safe, accepted or understood, trust your instincts, leave immediately and find another group.

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A grief and healing organization
dedicated to helping parents and families
living with the loss of a child.

 

COPE (Connecting Our Paths Eternally) is a non-profit grief and healing organization dedicated to helping parents and families living with the loss of a child.

Since 1999, COPE has connected individuals who have experienced similar losses by providing ongoing emotional, therapeutic and spiritual programs. These include monthly parent and sibling bereavement support group meetings, weekly art and movement therapy workshops, and a variety of special programs for our members mourning a child's passing, as well as the community.

In addition to assisting local families on Long Island, our COPEline (grief hotline) and COPE website have enabled us to also provide grieving individuals outside of Long Island with immediate support and resources and referrals. By providing help and support, COPE enables individuals grieving the death of a child to find strength from within to face the difficult journey that lies ahead.

Dedicated to the spirits of our children who have passed, COPE helps us to Connect Our Paths Eternally, sustaining and building upon the bonds of love and energy that connect us with our children.

- Lillian Julien, President and Founder, in memory of Michelle Julien

- Richard & Judy Berg, Co-Founders, in memory of David Berg

- Patti Greenberg, Co-Founder, in memory of Sharon Gallucci


The end of 2014 marks 15 years since COPE has been a non-profit foundation. Twenty-one years ago, my 20-year-old daughter, Michelle, lost her life in an auto accident.  Shortly after her passing, she came to me in a dream and said, "I'm okay, Mommy. You're the ones who aren't okay and you need to reach out and help each other."   Her message inspired what has become COPE, an acronym for Connecting Our Paths Eternally. “Since the inception of COPE, Michelle’s message has been my ongoing inspiration. Her energy is the driving force within me, and she continues to co-create the path of COPE.

I hope that COPE can be a source of comfort and help you to one day find your way back to life.

Wishing you comfort and peace ,,.
Lillian Julien, COPE President and Founder


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