The COPE Foundation

COPE Healing Tip of the Month

From COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever, LCSW

During the Tai Chi workshop at the COPE House last month the instructor, Linda, suggested that we follow our breath as we would follow a dance partner; let the breath lead us through the movements. Bringing awareness to the depth and rhythm of breathing was both energizing and tension releasing at the same time. Thich Nhat Hanh tells us to “Smile, breathe and go slowly.” We may often take the simple act of breathing for granted. Sure, we know that without it we would not live. But it is one of those things that happens unconsciously, automatically as we go about our lives without any need to pay attention to it. But all kinds of good things can happen when we pay attention to our breath. All you need to do is slow down or stop. If you are walking, walk slower, if you are sitting then stop what you are doing and Breathe. Breathe in and out through your nose. The breaths you take do not have to be very deep but deeper than your regular breaths. Focus. On just the breaths you are taking.  Inhale. Exhale. Inhale. Exhale. Inhale. Exhale. That’s it. Try to do this a few times a day. I have a reminder on my phone that makes a chime every so often and I stop and breathe. There are apps that can help you remember. Or maybe you just have a good memory.


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A grief and healing organization
dedicated to helping parents and families
living with the loss of a child.


COPE (Connecting Our Paths Eternally) is a non-profit grief and healing organization dedicated to helping parents and families living with the loss of a child.

Since 1999, COPE has connected individuals who have experienced similar losses by providing ongoing emotional, therapeutic and spiritual programs. These include monthly parent and sibling bereavement support group meetings, weekly art and movement therapy workshops, and a variety of special programs for our members mourning a child's passing, as well as the community.

In addition to assisting local families on Long Island, our COPEline (grief hotline) and COPE website have enabled us to also provide grieving individuals outside of Long Island with immediate support and resources and referrals. By providing help and support, COPE enables individuals grieving the death of a child to find strength from within to face the difficult journey that lies ahead.

Dedicated to the spirits of our children who have passed, COPE helps us to Connect Our Paths Eternally, sustaining and building upon the bonds of love and energy that connect us with our children.

- Lillian Julien, President and Founder, in memory of Michelle Julien

- Richard & Judy Berg, Co-Founders, in memory of David Berg

- Patti Greenberg, Co-Founder, in memory of Sharon Gallucci

The end of 2012 marks 13 years since COPE has been a non-profit foundation. Twenty-one years ago, my 20-year-old daughter, Michelle, lost her life in an auto accident.  Shortly after her passing, she came to me in a dream and said, "I'm okay, Mommy. You're the ones who aren't okay and you need to reach out and help each other."   Her message inspired what has become COPE, an acronym for Connecting Our Paths Eternally. “Since the inception of COPE, Michelle’s message has been my ongoing inspiration. Her energy is the driving force within me, and she continues to co-create the path of COPE.

I hope that COPE can be a source of comfort and help you to one day find your way back to life.

Wishing you comfort and peace ,,.
Lillian Julien, COPE President and Founder

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