The COPE Foundation

COPE Healing Tip of the Month

From COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever, PhD, LCSW

There is a saying, “When a parent dies, you lose the past. When a child dies, you lose the future. When a sibling dies, you lose the past and the future.” That is the grief of a sibling—grief for what was past, and grief for what should have been the future.

In many ways, siblings often experience a double loss: the loss of their sister or brother, and the loss of their parents (at least for a time, but sometimes, permanently).

Grieve your loss. Feel the loss as long as you need to, and give yourself time to heal. Because sibling loss is so misunderstood, you may receive messages that make you feel like you should be “over it by now.” They don’t know sibling loss. Now, you do. It takes time. Lots of time. It’s not about “getting over” the loss of a sibling. You don’t get over it. You create your life and move on, when you’re ready. But you will always remember your brother or sister—the missing piece of your life.

Adapted from Dr. Christina Hibbert http://www.drchristinahibbert.com

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A grief and healing organization
dedicated to helping parents and families
living with the loss of a child.

 

COPE (Connecting Our Paths Eternally) is a non-profit grief and healing organization dedicated to helping parents and families living with the loss of a child.

Since 1999, COPE has connected individuals who have experienced similar losses by providing ongoing emotional, therapeutic and spiritual programs. These include monthly parent and sibling bereavement support group meetings, weekly art and movement therapy workshops, and a variety of special programs for our members mourning a child's passing, as well as the community.

In addition to assisting local families on Long Island, our COPEline (grief hotline) and COPE website have enabled us to also provide grieving individuals outside of Long Island with immediate support and resources and referrals. By providing help and support, COPE enables individuals grieving the death of a child to find strength from within to face the difficult journey that lies ahead.

Dedicated to the spirits of our children who have passed, COPE helps us to Connect Our Paths Eternally, sustaining and building upon the bonds of love and energy that connect us with our children.

- Lillian Julien, President and Founder, in memory of Michelle Julien

- Richard & Judy Berg, Co-Founders, in memory of David Berg

- Patti Greenberg, Co-Founder, in memory of Sharon Gallucci


The end of 2014 marks 15 years since COPE has been a non-profit foundation. Twenty-one years ago, my 20-year-old daughter, Michelle, lost her life in an auto accident.  Shortly after her passing, she came to me in a dream and said, "I'm okay, Mommy. You're the ones who aren't okay and you need to reach out and help each other."   Her message inspired what has become COPE, an acronym for Connecting Our Paths Eternally. “Since the inception of COPE, Michelle’s message has been my ongoing inspiration. Her energy is the driving force within me, and she continues to co-create the path of COPE.

I hope that COPE can be a source of comfort and help you to one day find your way back to life.

Wishing you comfort and peace ,,.
Lillian Julien, COPE President and Founder


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