December 2015 Newsletter

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COPE December Newsletter

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Words from COPE President and Founder Lilly Julien 

Dear COPE Families,

Can we grieve and also embrace the holidays?

I contemplated this question as I listened to a recent interview entitled “Losing a Child” that featured COPE’s clinical director, Amy Olshever, and a bereaved mother from Colorado.  Especially during the holidays, I urge you to listen to their conversation and consider some of the ways we can take better care of ourselves.

Whether our losses are more recent, or many years along, holidays often bring up sadness and longing for our loved ones. While we may engage in activities that bring us healing, we are never fully healed. We are constantly learning to live with our pain of physical separation while trying to find a new relationship with ourselves and with our loved one who has passed.

It is up to each of us to ask for what we need and to be with those with whom we trust and feel safe. Rather than be with those who judge our ability to move on, we can choose to be with those who understand that our needs may change from moment to moment.

Holidays can bring triggers that break open our scars, while at the same time, if we’re able to give ourselves permission, there can be parts of holidays that bring us comfort.

Cindy Weaver, the bereaved parent who was interviewed, relates an ongoing dialogue in her head between two characters, Life & Grief, that represents her internal struggle. She refers to it as a tug of war.

Grief says, This is too tragic; you can’t be happy.

Life says, I want to live.

Grief says, No, you can’t.

And the conversation continues back and forth while they’re slowly moving closer to each other.

Then Grief says, It’s okay for you to live.

And Life says, It’s okay for you to grieve for the rest of your life.

And they walk away holding hands.

We don’t have to wait for grief to be done to live. We live AND we grieve. We grieve AND we live.  Wherever we are is where we need to be…

Wishing you strength to move gently through the holidays…

Lilly

 

 

COPE Healing Tip of the Month

From COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever, PhD, LCSW

Healing Tip: December 2015

 

The recent terrorist attacks in Paris, the ongoing acts of violence in Israel, suicide bombers in Beirut, Cameroon, Chad, Baghdad; the list goes on and on. When terrorist acts occur we look for ways to cope with the feelings that come up. For those who are grieving, these feelings can resemble acute stress and trauma. Terrorism evokes a fundamental fear of helplessness. The violent actions are random, unprovoked and intentional, and often are targeted at defenseless citizens. Trying to cope with this kind of irrational information that is beyond normal comprehension can set off a chain of psychological events culminating in feelings of fear, helplessness and vulnerability that complicate or intensify feelings of grief.

What can you do to help yourself navigate through a time of year that can already be difficult and that is now fraught with news of so many tragedies? Here are some suggestions:

  • Identify the feelings that you may be experiencing. Understand that your feelings are a normal reaction to an abnormal situation.
  • Remember that you have overcome adversity and trauma in the past. Try to remember what you did that helped you overcome the fear and helplessness in that situation.
  • Talk to others about your fears. It’s OK to ask for help.
  • Make efforts to maintain your usual routine.
  • Be realistic about the time it takes to feel better.
  • Recognize that the nature of terrorist attacks creates fear and uncertainty about the future.
  • Continue to do the things in your life that you enjoy.
  • Try not to get preoccupied with the things you cannot control to the extent that they prevent you from living your normal life.
  • Limit exposure to media coverage.
  • Consider seeking help from a psychologist or other mental health professional.

 

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Please Support our Organization

Please help COPE continue to provide support by making a donation.  Any donation can be made in tribute to a particular child or loved one.  To donate on line, please click here to visit our donation page www.copefoundation.org, or you can send in a check to COPE at P.O. Box 1251, Melville, NY  11747.  COPE thanks you for your support.

 

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December COPE Calendar of Events (see details below)

 

December Workshops:

1          Tuesday DAYTIME Parent Support Group Meeting – East Meadow (COPE House: 1pm)

2          Wednesday Night Parent Support Group – Dix Hills (Chai Center: 7:00pm)

3          Thursday Night Parent Support Group Meeting (2+ Years) (Syosset Library: 7:00pm)

7          New to COPE Monday Night Parent Support Group Meeting – East Meadow (COPE House: 7:30pm)

7          Merrick Parent Support Group Meeting – Merrick (Merrick Jewish Center: 7pm)

10        Teen Support Group – East Meadow (COPE House: 7:00pm)

13        National Children’s Memorial Candle Lighting (COPE House: 6:30pm)

17        Thursday Night Parent Support Group Meeting (New Parents) (Jericho Library: 7:00pm)

18        Friday Night Parent Support Group – Ronkonkoma (United Methodist Church: 7:00pm)

21        Monday Night Parent Support Group Meeting – East Meadow (COPE House: 7:30pm)

22        Tuesday Night Adult Sibling Group – East Meadow (COPE House: 7:00pm)

 

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Poem

 

As the holidays approach,

we each must become the teachers.

 

If you are like me

you think about your beloved

the one who died

every day.

In fact

you think about him or her

many

many

many times a day.

 

It doesn’t matter if the death occurred

yesterday

a few weeks ago

a handful of years ago

or even decades ago

they are part of you

and you think of them.

 

The same way you would think of them

if they were still walking around in their physical bodies.

Perhaps even more.

 

Most people don’t get that.

They just don’t.

And because your loved one

does not cross their mind

as often as he/she does yours

they simply do not know

(how would they unless they’ve lived it themselves?)

that you love to hear the name of your beloved spoken.

You love to say their name.

You love to hear someone else say their name.

A lot.

 

Same as if they were still alive.

Same.

Same.

Same.

 

So now

it’s your responsibility to become the teacher

for those willing to learn.

As the holiday season approaches

it’s your job to let others know it’s okay to

Say Their Name.

 

And this puts you in a vulnerable position.

Because some will be able to hear

really hear

what you are saying.

And others will not.

 

It’s important that you do it anyway.

It’s important that you ask for what you desire.

 

There is a new way to do grief.

We Say Their Names.

 

Tom Zuba, author –  Permission to Mourn

 

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COPE Book Corner

A Decembered Grief: Living with Loss While Others are Celebrating

By Harold Ivan Smith

Vincent van Gogh’s last words resonate with many grievers this holiday season:’La tristesse durea–the sadness will never go away. ’No, it will not go away. But it will change. Grief can be overwhelming, and it is especially intense during the holidays–those weeks that have always been spent in preparation and anticipation with a loved one who has been lost. While the world seems to be moving forward and celebrating life, grievers face a season of darkness and loss. For you–or as gift for someone you know who is grieving–Harold Ivan Smith guides the reader beyond the darkness with illustrations and insights that emphasize God’s ability to transform the holidays into a time of grace and healing.

To purchase the book for 25% off through Centering Corporation, please click here (https://www.centering.org/index.php?page=book&id=88&pid=1177
https://www.centering.org/index.php?page=book&id=94&pid=1206).  Please enter the coupon code “COPE” where it asks for “Input Coupon or Promotional Code”. Doing so will enable 10% of your purchases to be directed back to COPE.

 

If you have a book to recommend which you think will help our families along their path of healing, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.org.

 

COPE and Centering Corporation

COPE has partnered with the Centering Corporation to provide you with easy access to grief resources through our website. Centering Corporation is a non-profit organization dedicated to providing education and resources for the bereaved.  With resources on adult grief, death of a child, infant loss, children’s grief, as well as a host of grief-related products, Centering Corporation’s goal is, “We give you support.  We give you information.  We give you hope.”

 

You can easily access Centering Corporations vast array of resource from the home page of COPE’s website, the left or top tool bar where is says, “Grief Resource Center”.

 

When checking out on the Centering Corporation’s website, COPE hopes that you will enter the coupon code “COPE” where it asks for “Input Coupon or Promotional Code”. Doing so will enable 10% of your purchases to be directed back to COPE to help fund the grief support programs we offer parents, siblings and families living with the loss of a child.  COPE thanks you for your support.

 

COPE has published its very own Kindle book on how bereaved parents can COPE with their loss!  The Kindle book, “COPING WITH THE LOSS OF A CHILD: Strategies for Living with Loss & How Friends Can Help” is available on Amazon.

 

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Birthdays & Passings

In the month of December, we remember the following loved ones who were taken from us before their time:

 

1    Steven Montes (1977, birthday), son of Lucy & Ernie Montes

Scott Mazzio (2009, passing), son of Dawn Occhiogrosso

Linda Biondo (2011, passing), daughter of Phyllis Biondo

Michael Kwartier (1988, birthday), son of Jeff Kwartier

2    Courtney O’Bryan (2011, passing), daughter of Diane & Bill O’Bryan

Jamie Burch (2012, passing), daughter of Joanne Burch

Michael Bradley (1966, birthday), son of Kathleen Dwyer

3    Holli Haymes (2008, passing), sister of Ellen Heller

Bobby Beauregard (1989, birthday), brother of Shannon Beauregard

Justin Raja (1980, birthday), brother of Dana Raja

4    Aram Chowdhury (1994, passing), son of Ellen & Faizur Chowdhury

Raven Colon (1980, birthday), sister of Melissa Eberlein

Peter Cannon (2014, passing), brother of Roman & Frank Cannon

Michael Lipman (2014, passing), son of Mona Zenke

5    Sharon Gallucci (1978, birthday), daughter of Patti & Dave Greenberg, sister of Robbie Gallucci, Ben Greenberg and Marne Greenberg Smyles

Carmine Ambrosino (2013, passing), son of Martha & Michael Guarini

Michael John Pina, Jr. (2011, passing), son of Alisha Pendelton

6    David Berg (1976, birthday), son of Judy & Richard Berg, brother of Erica Berg Gavin

Kevin Lee (1999, passing), son of Suenette Lee

Ashton Wayne Yates (2010, passing), son of Kimberlee Yates

Linda Stasio (1968, birthday), daughter of Linda Stasio

Phillip Barlow (2012, passing), son of Lydia Barlow

Keith O’Malley (1977, birthday), son of Barbara O’Malley

7    Michelle Julien (1971, birthday), daughter of Lillian Julien, sister of Spencer Julien and Greer Julien Slovin

Michael Megdal (2009, passing), son of Vivian Megdal

Alexandra Dimenstein (2010, passing), daughter of Lisa & Gary Dimenstein

Owen Sheridan (2002, passing), son of Jim Sheridan

Justin Kolmer (2014, passing), son of Lee Kolmer

8    Quenten Tromaine Favors (1995, passing), son of Maxine McKenzie-Materowski

Brittany LaGrega (2010, passing), daughter of Dyane LaGrega

Evan Lerner (2012, passing), son of Lois Lerner and brother of Courtney Jacobs

Sammy Cohen Eckstein (2000, birthday), son of Amy & Gary Eckstein

Desiree Frantino (1994, birthday), daughter of Viola & Paul Frantino

Coddy Taddonio (2013, passing), son of Susan Taddonio

Anthony Latorre (1988, birthday), son of Vito & Gina Latorre

9    Christopher Morales (1986, birthday), son of Orlando Morales and Elizabeth Morales

10  Elizabeth Closter (1999, passing), daughter of Marion & Bob Closter

David Cooperman (1995, passing), son of Donna Cooperman, brother of Lindsay Cooperman

Michael Trichter Grauer (2007, passing), son of Terri Grauer

11  Christopher Simpson (2005, passing), son of Kathie & Kenny Prisco

Ryan Sims (2012, passing), son of Michael & Melinda Sims

Tracey Young (2011, passing), sister of April Young

Peter K, Ruhry (2010, passing), son of Angie Ruhry

12  Stephanie Nathanson (1986, birthday), daughter of Donna Koslosky and sister of Robert Nathanson

13  Beth Ivy (2003, passing), sister of Sydney

Andrea Levine (1987, passing), daughter of Phyllis & Mel Levine

Scott Pollock (2005, passing), son of Mady & Scott Pollock

Michael Megdal (1984, birthday), son of Vivian Megdal

Nicole Therese Russo (1975, birthday), daughter of Janice Russo-Mescia and sister of Melanie Russo

Jesse Barnett (2013, passing), son of Nancy Rossetti

Martin Belonsky (1959, birthday), son of Medline Belonsky

Shannon McNamara (2008, passing), brother of Cynthia McNamara

14  Daniel Carroll (2008, passing), son of Kim Carroll

Michael Lombardo (2011, passing), son of Fran Jennings

Isabel & Michelle Alessi (1980, birthday), daughters of Alla Bas

15  Kenny Klein (1960, birthday), son of Sue Klein

Jeffrey Vanchiro (20144, passing), son of Sylvester Vanchiro

16  Liam Barry (2012, passing), son of Matthew & Andra Barry

Jimmy Piedmont (2013, passing), son of Linda Piedmont

17  Michael D’Amico (2004, passing), son of Lydia D’Amico

Philip Starr (1962, birthday), son of Shelly & Michael Starr

Philip Stein (1962, birthday), son of Shelly & Michael Stein

Tristan Turnier-Baez (1995, birthday), son of James Baez and brother of Tatiana Turnier-Baez

Sue Coben (2011, passing), daughter of Esther & Larry Wynn

Charlie Porazzo (1990, birthday), son of Susan Porazzo

Laura Elizabeth Giampino (1986, birthday), daughter of Cynthia McNamara

18  Amanda Wells (2003, passing), daughter of Linda Wells

Michael Lassig (2010, passing), son of Lisa Lassig

Paul Peter Regan (1993, birthday), son of Maryanne Campbell

Sarita Robinson (2013, passing), daughter of Eticia Sosnick

Brad Rauber (2013, passing), brother of Stephanie Rauber

19  Brayden Michael Smith (2010, birthday), son of Tina Haynes

20  Paul Knopf (2002, passing), son of Norma & Michael Knopf, brother of Ilene Weinstein

David Bleichfeld (2008, passing), son of Harriet Bleichfeld

Josephine Avolio Kovacs (1961, birthday), sister of Cathy Avolio

Thomas Sutton (1969, birthday), son of Betty & Nick Conides

Kerri Marie Jackowski (2013, passing), daughter of June Jackowski

Michael Gonzales (2013, passing), son of Alberto Gonzales

21  Pamela Posen (1988, passing), daughter of Bonnie & Marty Gregge

Douglas Webster (2006, passing), son of Margery Webster

Jean Stout (2006, passing), daughter of Ellen Stout

Ashlee Rae Wolk (2012, passing), sister of Danielle Bonfanti

Douglas Caracappa (1956, birthday), brother of Denise Caracappa

22  Donna Hope (2005, passing), daughter of Ellen & Jack Krampf

Bonnie Brafman (2008 passing), daughter of Sandra & Stuart Brafman

23  Barry Drebin (1987, birthday), son of Shlomo & Rivkah Drebin

24  Gary Lichtenstein (1978, birthday), son of Dora & Mario Lichtenstein, brother of Eric and Adam Lichtenstein

Steve Weingard (1939, birthday), husband of Bonnie Weingard

Nicholas Cibelli (1992, birthday), son of Pam Cibelli and brother of Jen and Michelle Cibelli

Shawn Santo (2012. Passing), brother of Stephanie Santo and Stephen Santo

Phillip Bach (1986, birthday), son of David & Mindy Bach and brother of Matthew Bach

25  Joshua Kuchmeister (2008, passing), son of Gary & Linda Kuchmeister

Sean Egan (2002, passing), son of Ellen Seibert and brother of Paige Seibert

Amy Eberhart (2012, passing), daughter of Gail Blume

26  Douglas Ciullo (2007, passing), son of Eileen Simone

Bryan Lohr (1991, birthday), son of Barbara Lohr

27Lori Dudtis (1980, birthday), daughter of Maria & Joseph Dudtis

28  Elizabeth Closter (1970, birthday), daughter of Marion & Bob Closter

Yaacov (Jake) Soffer Levy (1971, birthday), son of Barbara Levy

Leslie Protzel (1957, birthday), daughter of Monica Protzel

David Levine (1973, passing), son of Shelly Balanoff

Suzy Fontrier (1955, birthday), sister of Michele Fontrier

Raven Colon (2011, passing), sister of Melissa Eberlein

Andrew Burrous (2001, birthday), son of Kathy & Bob Burrous

29  Steve Weingard (1939, birthday), husband of Bonnie Weingard

Harrison Horowitz (2012, passing), son of Susan Weiss-Horowitz

30  Steven Shankman (2003, passing), son of Mickey & Al Shankman

Mary Eleni Lazarus (2008, passing), daughter of Eleni Lazarus and Dino Lazarus, sister of Christopher Lazarus

Andrew Gary Latanich (2008, passing), son of Rose Mary Latanich

31  Shane Simcox (1985, birthday), brother of Sarah Dinan

David Michael Guzman (2011, passing), son of Sonia Lopez

Thomas Yates (1970, passing), son of Lillian & David Yates

 

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COPE Parent Column

December 2015

 

Please share with us your writings about your child.  Email Karen Flyer at Karen@copefoundation.org for more information.

 

COPE Sibling Column

December 2015

 

Please share with us your writings about your sibling.  Email Karen Flyer at Karen@copefoundation.org for more information.

 

COPE News

Our new website is now live!  Please check out copefoundation.org for our brand new site!  More interactivity and online support coming soon!

 

If anyone has any news to share with the group or a poem or inspirational story (to potentially be included in a future newsletter if you wish), please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.org.

 

Also, if you would like to have a picture of your child or sibling posted on the COPE website, please email me a jpeg and we will add it to the children’s page.  Also, if you have any foundations for your child, we would happily list those on our website.

 

National Children’s Memorial Day

Sunday, December 13th at 6:00 p.m. SHARP

COPE House in Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Please join COPE and Chaplain George Teachey, D.Min, BCC, Jennifer Plunkett Skibins, LCSW and Amy Olshever, PhD and Clinical Director of COPE for National Children’s Memorial Day as we remember and pay tribute to our children together on Sunday, December 13th at 6:00 p.m. at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park, East Meadow (Field 6A). The national candle lighting is at 7:00 p.m. (we will provide the candles). The candle lighting will be preceded by a workshop:

 

Finding Balance When Grief Knocks You Down:

Grief comes at you in many ways. Often it is like a wave that knocks you down, and just as you are about to stand up again, another wave hits you. How do you find the strength to keep getting up? How do you find the balance to withstand the waves? We will share some centering activities, coping strategies, and self-care tools that can help you identify when the waves are coming and plan for how to get back up again when they hit.

 

Please RSVP to Stacey Careri at scareri@copefoundation.org by December 7th.

 

Camp Erin® NYC – COPE Foundation

For the Latest News About COPE Camp Erin New York City!

August 2016

 

Camp Erin New York City- COPE Foundation, a FREE bereavement camp for children ages 6-17 dealing with a major loss, is scheduled for August 26th – 28th, 2016, at Camp Wayne, in PA, on the New York State border.  For more information on Camp Erin, volunteering, or for registration materials, please email COPE-Camp Erin New York City Camp Director Ann Fuchs at afuchs@copefoundation.org or 914-552-6919.

 

Monday Night Parent Support Group Meeting – Merrick

Merrick Jewish Center

Monday, December 7th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Join COPE and social worker Judy Hasnas for our South Shore Parent Support Group meeting on Monday, December 7th from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. SHARP at the Merrick Jewish Center (in the LIBRARY unless otherwise noted) which is located at 225 Fox Boulevard  Merrick, NY.  This group meets one Monday evening of the month at this time.  Judy Hasnas, LCSW, BCD, has a private practice in Bellmore, New York, and facilitated bereavement groups for parents of fire fighters who were killed on 9/11 as part of the Counseling Service Unit, FDNY.  She also worked as an independent contractor at the Steinway Child and Family Service of Howard Beach and was a social work coordinator at Bellevue Hospital Center.

 

For more information, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.org.

 

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Thursday Night Parent Support Group Meeting (2+ Years)

Syosset Library

Thursday, December 3rd at 7:00 p.m.  SHARP

Join COPE for our Two-Year Plus North Shore Parent Support Group meeting on Thursday, December 3rd at 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. SHARP at the Syosset Public Library (225 So. Oyster Bay Road).

 

COPE will once again be joined by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, a licensed social worker with a private practice specializing in bereavement counseling and individual and family therapy.   This is a group intended for parents whose loss occurred over two years ago.  Newly bereaved parents should feel free to attend one of COPE’s other support groups.

 

The second group, at the Jericho Public Library in Jericho (1 Merry Lane) is now for parents new to COPE.

 

For more information, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.org.

 

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Thursday Night Parent Support Group Meeting (New Parents)

Jericho Library

Thursday, December 17th at 7:00 p.m.  SHARP

Parents NEW TO COPE, please join us for our North Shore Parent Support Group meeting on Thursday, December 17th from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. SHARP at the Jericho Public Library (1 Merry Lane in Jericho).

 

This group, which meets monthly, is facilitated by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, a licensed social worker with a private practice specializing in bereavement counseling and individual and family therapy. This is for parents NEW TO COPE, as Marilyn’s other Thursday and Monday groups are filled at this time.

 

For more information, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.org.

 

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Monday Night Parent Support Group Meeting – East Meadow

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Monday, December 21st at 7:30 p.m.  SHARP

The Monday night COPE North Shore group will meet this month on Monday, December 21st from 7:30 – 9:00 p.m. This group will be facilitated by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, and will be held at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park, East Meadow NY at Field 6A.  For directions, please visit our website at www.copefoundation.org or email karen@copefoundation.org.  This group is for parents who have been part of COPE.  New to COPE parents should plan on attending the other Monday night meeting on December 7th.

 

For more information, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.org.

 

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Monday Night Parent Support Group Meeting – East Meadow (New Parents)

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Monday, December 7th at 7:30 p.m.  SHARP

The Monday night COPE North Shore group for parents NEW TO COPE will meet this month on Monday, December 7th from 7:30 – 9:00 p.m. This group will be facilitated by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, and will be held at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park, East Meadow NY at Field 6A.  For directions, please visit our website at www.copefoundation.org or email karen@copefoundation.org.

 

For more information, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.org.

 

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Wednesday Night Parent Support Group Meeting –Dix Hills

The Chai Center in Dix Hills

Wednesday, December 2nd at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Please join COPE and social worker Denise Fields for our Parent Support Group in Suffolk County, at the Chai Center in Dix Hills (501 Vanderbilt Parkway).  This group meets next on Wednesday, December 2nd at 7:00 – 8:30 p.m.  Denise has a private psychotherapy practice in Dix Hills, specializing in bereavement.  She previously was a consultant to the Huntington School district, and ran bereavement groups for the Family Service League in Huntington.  The group normally meets the second Wednesday evening of every month from 7:00-8:30 p.m.

 

For more information, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.org.

 

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Friday Night Parent Support Group Meeting – Ronkonkoma

United Methodist Church in Ronkonkoma

Friday, December 18th at 7:00 p.m. SHARP

Please join COPE and social worker Lisa Vitucci for our NEW Central Suffolk County Parent Support Group at the United Methodist Church in Ronkonkoma (792 Hawkins Avenue Lake Grove, NY 11755, 631-588-5856).  This group will meet next on Friday, December 18th at 7:00 – 8:30 p.m.  Lisa has more than ten years’ experience as a bereavement social worker for a hospice agency and is currently the Director of Social Work at ProHEALTH Care Support.  Lisa can be reached with any questions at 516-808-5821.

 

For more information or to express interest in this group, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.org.

 

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Tuesday Night Parent Support Group – NYC

1177 Avenue of the Americas @46th Street

On Hiatus

The New York City parent group, facilitated by social worker Bridgette Boucher, which met on the second Tuesday of every month at 1177 Avenue of the Americas at 46th Street floor C-2, Suite 0020 from 7:00-8:30 p.m. is CURRENTLY ON HIATUS awaiting additional interest.  If you know of anyone interested in this group, please contact COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever at amyolshever@copefoundation.org.  

 

Bridgette is currently a family therapist working with the Sloan Kettering Cancer Center and has a private practice in New York City.  She was previously a therapist for the Ackerman Institute for the Family, treating families dealing with grief, substance abuse, domestic violence, trauma and relationship problems.  For more information, please email Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.org or contact Bridgette directly at boucher9175@gmail.com.

 

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NEW Tuesday DAYTIME Parent Support Group Meeting – East Meadow

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Tuesday, December 1st at 1:00 p.m. SHARP

The NEW DAYTIME Parent Support Group which normally meets the first Tuesday of the month at the COPE House at Eisenhower Park (Field 6A) in East Meadow will meet next on Tuesday, December 1st from 1:00 – 2:30 p.m.  The group is facilitated by licensed social worker Janet Zimmerman. Janet is currently in private practice as a psychotherapist.  She previously ran bereavement groups for the Mid-Island JCC and has been a social worker for almost 40 years.  For more information or to express your interest, please contact Amy Olshever, COPE Clinical Director, at 516-418-6606.

 

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COPE Grandparents Group, East Meadow

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Meets Bi-Monthly – Next Meeting is in January

COPE has started up a new group for bereaved parents who have lost adult children with children.  This group will meet next on in January (date TBD) from 6:30-8:00 p.m. and will be facilitated by Lisa Vitucci.  Parents will discuss the dynamics involved dealing with grandchildren and their surviving parent and share their stories and issues they may have in this different family relationship.  Suggestions can be made as to how to deal with these issues Lisa has more than ten years’ experience as a bereavement social worker for a hospice agency and is currently the Director of Social Work at ProHEALTH Care Support.  Lisa can be reached with any questions at 516-808-5821.

 

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Saturday Morning Adult Sibling Support Group – NYC

274 Madison Ave. Manhattan  

Meets Quarterly – Currently on Hiatus

The Saturday COPE young adult sibling support group in Manhattan facilitated by licensed social worker Amy Kirschenblatt is currently ON HIATUS.  It normally meets at the offices of tmg Media (274 Madison Avenue, Room 1202).  This is a new location, right next to Chipolte.  To RSVP, please email Karen Flyer at Karen@copefoundation.org or you may contact Amy Kirschenblatt directly at amysross@aol.com. This group will meet quarterly going forward.

 

Amy is a social worker with EDTC (Eating Disorders Treatment Collaborative) in Jericho, NY.  Previously, she worked in a prenatal care program at NSHS/LIJ.

 

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Tuesday Night Adult Sibling Support Group – East Meadow

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Tuesday, December 22nd at 7:00 p.m. (NOTE: Group Now Meeting on Tues)

Please join COPE for our adult sibling group on Long Island on Tuesday, December 22nd from 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. at the COPE House in East Meadow.  For directions, please visit our website at www.copefoundation.org or email karen@copefoundation.org.  The group will be facilitated by licensed social worker Amy Kirschenblatt.  Amy is a social worker with EDTC (Eating Disorders Treatment Collaborative) in Jericho, NY.  Previously, she worked in a prenatal care program at NSHS/LIJ.

 

For more information, please email Karen Flyer at Karen@copefoundation.org.

 

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Teen Loss Support Group (13-17)

COPE House in East Meadow

Next meeting: December 10th   

Teens who have lost a sibling, parent, or significant loved one…. If you are interested in attending the new COPE Teen Loss Group the second Thursday evening of every month at 7:00 p.m. at the COPE House in East Meadow, please express your interest to Clinical Director Amy Olshever at 516-418-6606.  The next meeting of the group will be December 10, 2015 at 7:00 p.m.

 

The group is facilitated by licensed social worker Jennifer Plunkett.   Jennifer is currently a psychotherapist with a private practice in Huntington where she specializes in treating adolescents, and an adjunct instructor at Suffolk Community College where she teaches courses in Child & Adolescent Psychology.  Jennifer previously served as a bereavement specialist at Good Shepherd Hospice.  There will also be a weekly social media component involved between the meetings. There is no cost to participate in this program.

 

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Young Children’s Grief Support Group (Ages ~7-12)

COPE House in East Meadow

On Hiatus

The NEW Children’s Grief Support Group for kids ages 7-12 living with the loss of a loved one is on hiatus due to lack of enrollment.  If you are interested in your child joining an 8-week spring group, please contact COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever at 516-418-6606 or amyolshever@copefoundation.org.

 

 

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Expressive Art Workshop for Parents

Date TBD at 12:30 p.m.

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

The COPE Expressive Art Workshop will meet on Monday, TBD from 12:30 p.m. – 2:00 p.m. at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park in East Meadow.  You do NOT have to be an artist or have artistic “talent” to participate.

 

In order to prepare for the Labyrinth Dedication on Thursday, Nov 5th (10am-noon), Lilly will be holding Art Workshops every Monday between now and then, from 12:30-2:00 pm at the COPE House (10/19, 10/26 and 11/2).  Projects will include working on the branch for the wishing tree, creating inspirational smooth rocks, and continuing to work on mosaics.  These items will all be placed around the labyrinth and/or included in the dedication ceremony.

 

Please RSVP to Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.org for any week you wish to attend!

 

 

Spiritual Circle

NOT MEETING THIS MONTH

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

The Spirituality Circle will not be held this month at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park in East Meadow.   Since space is limited please RSVP.

 

Spirituality Circle meetings are hosted by COPE President and Founder Lilly Julien.  COPE hopes that all parents interested in spirituality as an integral part of the healing process will attend these monthly get-togethers.  Some months will include guest speakers and healers. If you have any questions, please contact Lilly Julien at ljulien5@gmail.com.

 

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Community Events

Please contact Karen Flyer at Karen@copefoundation.org with any community healing events to list in our newsletter.

 

OPEN TO HOPE and COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS PRESENT….

a free webinar: Getting Through the Holidays

November 30 at 4:00 pm pst.  (7:00 pm New York time)

 

On this webinar Dr. Gloria Horsley, Dr. Heidi Horsley, and Alan Pedersen, Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends, are joined by Mitch Carmody in a discussion of strategies for getting through the Holidays following the death of a loved one.  Mitch is the author of Letters to My Son: Turning Loss into Legacy.

 

To register, visit: https://attendee.gotowebinar.com/register/7700592783527312898

 

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the webinar. Brought to you by GoToWebinar®  Webinars Made Easy®

 

COPE Individual Support, or “Buddy System”

For those bereaved parents and siblings not ready for a support group, or who wish to augment their support group experience with individual support, COPE offers a “buddy system.”  If you are in need of a buddy (a parent or sibling who shares your particular loss), OR if you wish to act as a buddy to a newly bereaved parent or sibling, please contact Karen Flyer at karen@copefoundation.org.  Peer support is truly at the heart of COPE!

 

COPE Donations

We thank the following people for making general donations to COPE during the months of (late) October 2015 and November 2015:

 

  • Karen and Alan Flyer in honor of Richard Berg’s birthday
  • Phyllis Silverman in memory of  Gabriel Harold Hilsenrad
  • Leslie Glick in memory of Andrew Weiner
  • Elaine Ditzel in memory of Kenneth Ditzel
  • Eleanor DeFalco in memory of Anthony Maletta
  • Marc Siegel in memory of Steven Andrew Siegel
  • Rhoda Bender in memory of Susan Capanelli
           

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If you no longer wish to receive these newsletters, please email Karen Flyer at Karen@copefoundation.org.

 

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Karen Flyer

Executive Director, COPE

P.O. Box 1251

Melville, NY 11747

Tel: (516) 484-4993, Fax: 516-484-4885

Email: karen@copefoundation.org

www.copefoundation.org