Suggestions of What is Helpful and Not Helpful
This is taken from a brochure written by Marcia G. Scherago, M.S.W., L.C.S.W., published by Medic Publishing, and distributed by the Centering Corporation.
- Taking care of yourself physically.
- Working on your own grief
- Dealing with your own feelings of guilt and blame
- Allow surviving children their own method of grieving
- Getting help for your children if needed
- Finding healthy ways to remember your child
- Finding a way to spend time with the surviving children
- Giving your children space
- Using trite sayings
- Idealizing your dead child
- Comparing the dead child to surviving children
- Attempting to replace the dead child with the surviving children