When the Holidays Aren’t So Happy
When you are grieving, holidays aren’t always joyful, blissful or magical. They can mark a period of intense feelings and stress. Pressure from family, friends and the media can have a strong influence on how those who are grieving are supposed to feel. These expectations can make the holidays even more stressful. While intense feelings may surface, it is never a bad idea to have some different ways to cope in mind.
· Don’t isolate-while you may not feel like being social, it is important to interact with those who are able to support you when you may be feeling emotionally vulnerable.
· Wipe out guilt-Don’t think about the things you should or shouldn’t be doing or allow others to make you feel badly about having boundaries.
· Set boundaries-You are doing the very best you can and do not need to explain yourself. It’s ok to be a little selfish when grieving.
· Time does not stand still-remember that the holidays are temporary and will be over. You will return to a routine that makes you more comfortable.
We at the COPE Foundation understand how difficult the holidays can be. If you need extra support please don’t hesitate to contact Michelle Graff, LCSW, Clinical Director at 516-274-0540 or michelle@copefoundation.com.
