May 2017 Newsletter

Posted by: Adam Rabinovitch | Categories: Newsletters

Words from COPE President and Founder,

Lillian Julien

Dear COPE Families,

I was shattered by the loss of my child until I gradually found pieces of myself and strength to move forward.

Mother’s Day is a day that I struggle with to find ways to connect with my daughter and feel her with me.

I was lying in meditation this past week in a yoga class.
The music playing was “We are the Light.”
My mind went to the words written on my daughter’s gravestone… “Our Light.”
As the music played, I had the sudden awareness of that light being inside of me.
It is not only her light that guides me but “our light” that connects us.
I’ve found that only in spiritual connection can I find peace.

As mothers, we carry and give birth to our children.
As mothers we continue to carry our children inside of our being.
They are a part of us…in mind, in heart, in body and spirit.
My thoughts go out to all mothers.
And to all of our children who made us mothers.
And to all of our mothers who gave us life.
And to the love and light that connects us eternally.

Lilly
COPE President and Founder
lilly@copefoundation.org

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COPE Healing Tip of the Month

From COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever, PhD, LCSW

You Are Not Going Crazy, It’s Grief

Most of us functioned fairly competently in our day-to-day lives—holding jobs or going to school, managing families, reading books, taking care of our health, entertaining friends and family—right up until someone we loved stopped living. Instantly we become disorganized, distracted, distraught, distressed, and disoriented. It’s no wonder everything seems foggy. The things we once did by habit even seem difficult, to say nothing of the more challenging tasks.

Grief can cause confusion, forgetfulness, anxiety, and a lack of concentration we call “Brain Fog.” Have you put the ice cream away in the pantry and the car keys in the freezer? Have you missed an appointment? Or forgotten to brush your teeth? You may have worried that you were going crazy or starting to show early signs of dementia. But these symptoms, the fog and the mental confusion, are actually symptoms of extreme stress and grief. When you are trying to read a book, or concentrate on a movie but find you have no idea what you just read or saw, you have Brain Fog. Grief causes brain fog, because not only are you sad and missing the person you’ve lost, but your brain is preoccupied by the “what if” and “if only” thoughts that are a normal and natural reaction to loss. 

To help clear some of that fog you need to acknowledge it first. You aren’t going crazy, and you can help yourself focus, but you will benefit from staying with the feelings for a while so you can process them. It is normal to drift out of focus in response to conscious or unconscious memories of the person who died. When you notice this happening, take a “grief break” with someone you trust; it might help you get back to focus. If you can avoid making big decisions for a while, you might try to wait so that more of your mental capacity comes back on line. It is also important to take care of the physical—nourish your body with healthy food and water. If you are not sleeping well, it could be a good time to seek help for that. Most importantly, be gentle with yourself, this fog is normal and will, with time, become easier to manage. 

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May COPE Calendar of Events 

Workshops and Events:
17   Wednesday: PM Writing Workshop – East Meadow (COPE House 7pm –
        8:30pm)  
20   Saturday: Daytime Writing Workshop  – East Meadow (COPE House 2:00pm –
        3:30pm)  
22   COPE Golf Outing 2017 – The Muttontown Club, East Norwich

Support Groups:
1    Monday: South Shore Parent Support Group – Merrick (Merrick Jewish
      Center, 7pm)
2    Tuesday: DAYTIME Parent Support Group – East Meadow (COPE House, 1pm)
4, 11, 18, 25
      Thursday: Teen Support Group – East Meadow (COPE House, 7:30pm)
8    Monday Night Parent Support Group for Parents New to COPE – East Meadow
       (COPE House, 7pm)
9    Tuesday:  Grandparent Support Group – East Meadow (COPE House, 6:30 pm)
10  Wednesday:  Western Suffolk County Parent Support Group – Dix Hills (Chai
       Center, 7pm)
11   Thursday: North Shore Parent Support Group for Parents New to COPE –
       Jericho (Jericho Public Library, 7pm)
12   Friday:  New York City Adult Sibling Group – (DASHA® Flagship, The Galleria,
       115 East 57th Street, Suite 520, New York, NY, 10022, 6:15 pm-7:45 pm)   
15   Monday: Parent Support Group Meeting – East Meadow (COPE
       House, 7:30pm)
17   Wednesday: DAYTIME Parent Support Group – East Meadow (COPE House,
       1pm)
18   Thursday: North Shore Parent Support Group for Established Parents – Syosset
        (Syosset Public Library, 7pm)
19   Friday: Central Suffolk County Parent Support Group – Ronkonkoma (United
        Methodist Church, 7pm) 
22   Monday: Long Island Adult Sibling Group – East Meadow (COPE House, 7pm)

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Support COPE in Supporting Others
Please help COPE continue to provide support by making a donation.  Any donation can be made in tribute to a particular child or loved one.  To donate on line, please click here to visit our donation page www.copefoundation.org[https://www.copefoundation.org],  or you can send in a check to COPE at PO Box 1251 Melville, NY 11747.

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Poem

OUR LOVING SON KENNETH LACKS

They say there is a reason,
They say that time will heal,
But neither time nor reason,
Will change the way we feel,
For no one knows the heartache,
That lies behind our smile.
No one knows how many times,
We have broken down and cried.
We want to tell you something,
So there won’t be any doubt,
You are so wonderful to think of,
But so hard to be without
FOREVER & ALWAYS LOVED, MOM & DAD

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COPE Book Corner

Living With Loss: One Day at a Time
By Rachel Blythe Kodanaz

“I am so glad that Rachel wrote this book so she can continue to help more people live with loss. She has a special gift for imparting small and manageable ideas that can profoundly impact someone grieving. Loss is never easy, but Rachel’s words and wisdom can help make the journey a bit more bearable and perhaps even more meaningful.”—Sharon Liese, from the foreword Living with Loss offers daily encouragement to individuals and families who have recently lost a loved one. The short entries are easy to read and give realistic, practical advice to guide readers through the day. By providing tools and suggestions that offer hope, optimism, introspection, and self-discovery, this book enables readers to embrace the happy days of life with their loved one and gently guide them through their grief.

If you have a book to recommend which you think will help our families along their path of healing, please email info@copefoundation.org[mailto:info@copefoundation.org].

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COPE and Centering Corporation
COPE has partnered with the Centering Corporation to provide you with easy access to grief resources through our website. Centering Corporation is a non-profit organization dedicated to providing education and resources for the bereaved.  With resources on adult grief, death of a child, infant loss, children’s grief, as well as a host of grief-related products, Centering Corporation’s goal is, “We give you support.  We give you information.  We give you hope.”

You can easily access Centering Corporations vast array of resource from the home page of COPE’s website, the left or top tool bar where is says, “Grief Resource Center” or by clicking here[https://www.centering.org/].

When checking out on the Centering Corporation’s website, COPE hopes that you will enter the coupon code “COPE” where it asks for “Input Coupon or Promotional Code”. Doing so will enable 10% of your purchases to be directed back to COPE to help fund the grief support programs we offer parents, siblings and families living with the loss of a child.  COPE thanks you for your support.

If you have a book to recommend which you think will help our families along their path of healing, please email info@copefoundation.org[mailto:Joy@copefoundation.org].   

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Birthdays and Passings

In the month of May, we remember the following loved ones who were taken from us before their time:

1               Michael Axelrod (1981, Birthday) son of Joan Axelrod
                 Michael DiGioia (1981, Birthday) brother of Sam DiGioia
                 Michael Aaron Neeley (1981, Birthday) son of Joy Neeley
                 Eric Rattinger (1965, Birthday) son of Anne Rattinger
                 Daniel Aquila (2015, Passing) son of Judy Aquila
                 Stuart Gruskin (2009, Passing) son of Renee Gruskin
                 Peter Kaliscik (2013, Passing) son of Carol & Peter Kaliscik
                 Michelle Nardone (2008, Passing) daughter of Nick Nardone
                 Daniel “Dee” Babich (2015, Passing) son of Lauren Sloane
                 Thomas Yates (2014, Passing) son of Lillian & David Yates
2               Sydney Gross (1990, Birthday) daughter of Lori Duckstein
                 William Mark Laube (1989, Birthday) son of Beth & William Laube  and
                                 brother of Christina Laube 
                 David Mannino (1981, Birthday) son of Linda Mannino
                 Rachel Anolik-Petrsoric  (2007, Passing) daughter of Rose & David Anolik
3               Joe Marino (1994, Birthday) son of Diane Marino
                 Jesse Radowitz (1977, Birthday) son of Sherry and Stu Radowitz
                 Adam Stark (1982, Birthday) son of Candice & Jeff Stark and brother of
                                 Mariel Stark Williams
                 Pauline Nemati (2015, Passing) daughter of Mitra & Iradj Nemati
4               Jordana Arin Cooper (1974, Birthday) sister of Jason Cooper
                 Patrick Joseph Carney, Jr. (2015, Passing) husband of Dora Carney
                 Deborah Barnes (2012, Passing) daughter of Marcia  & Frank Jedzrowski
                 Patrick Murphy (2013, Passing) son of Karen Murphy
5               Jeff Palluzzo (1967, Birthday) son of Fran Galluzzo
                 Spencer Reis (1997, Birthday) son of Jeff & Anita Reis and brother of
                                 Ryan Reis
                 Lauren Brittany Katz (2002, Passing) daughter of Michelle & Saul Katz
                 Matthew Lichten (1996, Passing) son of Eric Lichten
6               Michael Eichenbaum (9999, Birthday) son of Linda & Lee Eichenbaum
                 Christina Angelo (2010, Passing) daughter of Aileen & Joseph Angelo
                 Joseph Janssen (2013, Passing) son of Mike Janssen
                 Jennifer Jimenez (2010, Passing) sister of Julianne Jimenez
                 Cliff Leslie (2000, Passing) son of Yvonne Leslie
                 Jesse Radowitz (2007, Passing) son of Sherry and Stu Radowitz
                 Cody McKenzie Gainey (2011, Passing) son of Michelle Wright
7               Nick Cibelli (2010, Passing) brother of Jen Cibelli and brother of
                                 Michelle Cibelli
                 Nicholas Cibelli (2010, Passing) son of Pam Cibelli
                 Alan Millman (1968, Passing) son of Stecia Millman
8               Daniel Frenkel (1992, Birthday) brother of Anastasia Frenkel
                 Ryan Groh (1993, Birthday) son of Lisa Groh
                 Brandon Peykar (1980, Birthday) brother of Jennifer Kamin Peykar
                 Ryan Shaw (1978, Birthday) son of Janice Shaw
                 Keith Costigan (1998, Passing) son of Kathie Costigan
                 Gwyn Sullivan (2012, Passing) daughter of Joan Marlow
                 Adam Rayman (2004, Passing) son of Anita & Harry Rayman
                 Josh Sutton (2013, Passing) brother of Jennifer Sutton
                 Adam Michael Zdunczyk (2008, Passing) son of Kathy Zdunczyk
9               Jay Jimenez (1979, Birthday) son of Liz Barbera
                 Steven Goldberg (1969, Birthday) son of Carol Goldberg
10             Shannon Powers (1997, Birthday) daughter of Donna Powers
                 Christine DeSantis (2014, Passing) daughter of Irene DeSantis
11              Matthew Bell, Jr. (1994, Birthday) son of Matthew Bell
                 Donna Hope (1969, Birthday) daughter of Ellen & Jack Krampf
12             Christina Formato (1992, Birthday) daughter of Joe Formato and sister of
                                 Theresa Formato 
                 Andrew Gerber (1986, Birthday) son of Laurie Gerber
                 Andrew Burrous (2011, Passing) son of Kathy & Bob Burrous
13             Joseph Oliva (1991, Birthday) son of Theresa Oliva
                 Pat Posillico (1978, Birthday) son of Frances Posillico
                 Kevin Naccary (1968, Birthday) brother of Schuyler, Meredith Va
                 James Totans (2011, Passing) son of Priscilla Apicella
                 Kelly Costello (2015, Passing) sister of Allison Georgens Costello
                 Nicholas Reimuller (2012, Passing) son of Maureen Reimuller
                 Lakeya Strickland (2015, Passing) daughter of Lakesha Strickland
14             Michael Bloomberg (1971, Birthday) son of Sandi & Jerry Bloomberg
                 Howard Brodsky (1961, Birthday) son of Harriet & Phillip Brodsky
                 Isabella Contreras (2014, Passing) daughter of Alex Contreras
                 Emily Goldner (2016, Passing) daughter of Mary Goldner
                 Lori Schiffer (2013, Passing) daughter of Helen Goldstein
                 Blaize Curtis Mansur (2013, Passing) son of Susan Mansur
15             Michael Trotta (1987, Birthday) son of Jaclyn & Michael Trotta
                 Christopher Conklin (2014, Passing) son of Gordon Conklin
                 Larry Finkel (2013, Passing) son of Doris Finkel
16             Staci Love (2002, Passing) sister of Kim Erlich
                 Joseph Kenny (2014, Passing) son of Kevin & Jo Kenny
17              Blake Carlin (1997, Birthday) son of Jacqueline Carlin
                 Shannon Fearon (1987, Birthday) sister of Christine Himpler and sister of
                                 Catherine Krupp 
                 Blaize Curtis Mansur (1994, Birthday) son of Susan Mansur
                 Jeanine Pucci (1971, Birthday) daughter of Bernadette Marino
18             Rebecca Guerin (1970, Birthday) daughter of Rose Guerin
                 Ryan Hannigan (1977, Birthday) son of Anita & John Hannigan
                 Bobby Celentano (2005, Passing) brother of Alyssa Celentano
                 Leonard Ross (2007, Passing) son of Irwin & Barbara Ross
19             Christopher J. Eisele (1985, Birthday) son of John & Kathy Montoya
                 Dr. James Mathew Wiezorek (2013, Passing) son of Mary Beringer
                 Harriet Patronis (2015, Passing) daughter of Despina Koukoulas
                 Michelle Bergman (2010, Passing) daughter of Marc  Jean Levinn and 
                                 sister of Sharri Chahalis
                 Kurt McAuliffe (2013, Passing) son of Jeannie McAuliffe
21             Jacob Goodman (1998, Birthday) son of Nancy Goodman
                 Brad Stoll (2008, Passing) son of Lucy & Howard Stoll
22             Joseph Goldman (1967, Birthday) brother of Gina Goldman
                 Michael Lombardo (1981, Birthday) son of Fran Jennings
                 Christian Darling (2016, Passing) son of Donna Darling
23             Daniel Milch (1980, Birthday) son of Linda Milch
                 Chistopher Shea (1995, Birthday) son of Katie Shea
                 Walter Allen Hardy, III (2013, Passing) son of Delores Mower
                 Dex Nuzzi (2011, Passing) son of Robert Nuzzi
                 Ryan Wollman (2016, Passing) son of Todd Wollman
24             Adam Cohen (1974, Birthday) son of Marilyn Cohen
                 Isabella Contreras (2006, Birthday) daughter of Alex Contreras
                 Isaiah Mitchell (2003, Birthday) son of Vivonne Mitchell
                 Mario Guy Mendez (1968, Birthday) son of Ellen Pontecorvo
                 Troup Risser (2006, Passing) son of Wendy Holden
25             Tiara Durham (1993, Birthday) daughter of Tonya Durham
                 Jerry Hart (1975, Birthday) son of Helen Geslak
                 Larry Gnolfo (1961, Birthday) son of Coral & Jim Gnolfo
                 Joshua Link (1980, Birthday) son of Linda & Ronald Link
                 Miranda Marciano (1993, Birthday) daughter of Jeff Marciano
                 Josh Link (1980, Birthday) brother of Sara Link & Eric Neisner
                 Dale Dampf (2010, Passing) daughter of Paula Dampf
                 Tony Ferrante (2013, Passing) son of Sandy Ferrante
26             Christopher F. Elshamy (1983, Birthday) son of Haydee Santiago
                 David Tauber Wiener (1973, Birthday) son of Phyllis Wiener
                 Sharon Gallucci (1997, Passing) daughter of Patti Greenberg, sister of
                                 Rob Gallucci, sister of Ben Greenberg , sister of Marne Greenberg
                 Kaeli Kramer (2009, Passing) daughter of Linda & Peter Kramer
                 Adam Stark (2001, Passing) son of Candice & Jeff Stark and brother of
                                 Mariel Stark Williams
27             James Zajicek (1980, Birthday) son of Anna Zajicek
                 Johnathan Gonzales (2015, Passing) son of Donna Gonzales
                 Michael Kwartler (2013, Passing) son of Jeff Kwartler and brother of
                                 Jessica Kwartler 
28             Marco Caban (1966, Birthday) father of Jessica Caban
                 Johnathan Gonzales (1983, Birthday) son of Donna Gonzales
                 Jacqueline Groody (1993, Birthday) daughter of Tammy Groody
                 Joanna Elizabeth Johnson (1990, Birthday) daughter of Donna Johnson
                                 and Jake Johnson, and sister of Laura Johnson 
                 Thomas Reynolds (1998, Birthday) son of Lisa Reynolds
                 Leonard Ross (1979, Birthday) son of Irwin & Barbara Ross
                 Sean Egan (1983, Birthday) son of Ellen Seibert and  brother of Paige Seibert
                 Paul Marchese (1972, Birthday) son of Laura Verardi
                 Mitchell Lippman (1958, Birthday) son of Mona Zenke
                 Eric Essman (2000, Passing) son of Sage Essman
                 Rebekah Frucht (2012, Passing) daughter of Morton Frucht and
                                 sister of Joseph Frucht
                 Elisheva Basya (2010, Passing) daughter of Sarah Lerner
                 Laura Elizabetg Giampino (2007, Passing) daughter of Caryn Pesce
29             Mark Edwin Fant (1959, Birthday) son of Winnie Fant
                 Fran Sharp Auslander (1978, Birthday) daughter of Robert & Arlene
                                 Sharp, sister of Ari Sharp, sister of Shaun Sharp
                 Robert Kevin O’Hara (2011, Passing) son of Patricia OHara
30             Eric Schalet  (1962, Birthday) son of Sandra Protass
                 Susan Shapiro (1961, Birthday) sister of Joan Shapiro
                 Larry Yerys (1971, Birthday) son of Abbey & Paul Yerys and  brother of
                                 Ben Yerys
31             Yaacov Levy (Jake) Soffer Levy (1997, Passing) son of Barbara Levy
                 Michael Aaron Neeley (2006, Passing) son of Joy Neeley
                 Daniel Weiss (2009, Passing) son of Hannah Weiss

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Parent Column

May 2017

Tom’s Mom, Janet Shavel writes:

As all of us grieve the loss of our children, somehow for me – perhaps others, the date of my son Tom’s birth is a difficult day.

My son would have been 45 on April 21st-I buried him on my birthday, Aug 31st – It will be 7 years this August. Who said Birthdays HAVE to be happy? All the balloons, greeting cards, phone calls, and exchanges from friends and neighbors say “happy birthday” on one’s day of birth.  Yes, it was happy for my parents, but little did I know as a baby 68 years ago, that my birthday as well as other days during the year is a sad reminder that on that date I buried Tom in the boiling heat.  I can still see the coffin placed down on the terrain. I see my other 2 sons laying down their rose and saying bye Tom.  It even breaks my heart to clearly see their pain and sorrow and sometimes guilt. That goes with the death process.  I guess the answer for me was to visit him at the cemetary ON HIS BIRTHDAY. I VISIT HIM ON THE DATE OF HIS death, August 26th 2010 – 7 days after I buried my Mom suddenly as well.  I do receive a little peace and solitude inside so that I can say to him this birthday – Happy Birthday Tom​. I miss you and Love you- As the heat of the sun bakes my skin I can feel his presence around me and tears staining the skin on my face.  I look up and I see his memory as if it were yesterday.
Happy Birthday Tom​.​
Love Mom

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COPE Sibling Column

Please share with us your writings about your sibling.  Email info@copefoundation.org[mailto:Joy@copefoundation.org] for more information.   

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COPE News

Our yearly bowling events were a great success in 2017…
Thank you to all who supported and particiapted in both events!
And thank you to our volunteers – you helped make these events successful!

If anyone has any news to share with the group or a poem or inspirational story (to potentially be included in a future newsletter if you wish), please email info@copefoundation.org[mailto:Joy@copefoundation.org].

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Camp Erin® New York City – COPE Foundation

COPE’s Bereavement Camp for Children Ages 6 – 17 
August 25 – 27, 2017

 Lilly and Staff at  the Bowling Event
                         in NYC  

Hi,
Oh, what a night!

Over a hundred family, friends, staff and Camp Erin families came out to support Camp Erin NYC on April 3rd at our 4th annual Bowling event. We ate, we drank, we bowled, we laughed, we had fun and we even drummed!

We exceeded our fundraising goal, thanks to the generosity of compassionate friends, family and staff. Represented this year were TWO families who have directly benefited from Camp Erin’s weekend. They came together with friends to pay it back and raise funds so more children can experience our amazing weekend of hope and healing.

One of our dedicated volunteers- our percussionist -shared his magic and our supporters got a  glimpse into what we do at camp. One hundred pairs of drum sticks were flailing around- no one was injured- but the beat was heard far and wide!

Our thanks to everyone for going the extra mile and fundraising and participating! For the campers, it is a win, win!

Getting busy prepping for the summer. Please spread the word about camp and send them our way.

NEED SUPPLIES:
Looking for 2 or 5 gallon plastic buckets to make our drums that the campers play and take home (Home Depot, Lowes etc, restaurants….) Anyone have any connections?

Enjoy the spring!
Best,
Ann

For more information on Camp Erin, please email COPE-Camp Erin New York City Camp Director Ann Fuchs at afuchs@copefoundation.org[mailto:afuchs@copefoundation.org] or 914-552-6919.

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COPE Golf Outing 2017

Monday, May 22nd

COPE’s 11th Annual Golf Outing Honors Karen Flyer, Former Executive Director, COPE Parents Jane & Jon Bell, and Dr. Amy Gross, Founding Clinical Director of Camp Erin NYC, Monday, May 22, 2017 at the Muttontown Club in East Norwich, NY

Please REGISTER. Sponsorship opportunities are now open.
The COPE Golf Outing is a great opportunity for individuals, organizations and COPE families to support our mission and honor your child, sibling or loved one, as well as our Honorees.
Monies raised from the event will fund COPE’s programming: support groups, workshops, and Camp Erin® NYC (August 25-27, 2017).
If you wish to become an Individual or Corporate Sponsor, take a Tee Sign, or place an Ad in our JOURNAL, click here[https://app.etapestry.com/hosted/COPE/Registration.html].
If you have any questions about registration and sponsorship opportunities, please contact Lynda Rice, COPE Administrative Director (lynda@[mailto:lynda@copefoundation.org]copefoundation.org[mailto:lynda@copefoundation.org])
If you would like to volunteer on the day of the outing, contact Lynda.

Memorial opportunities are available to honor your child, sibling, or loved one with a tee sign.

How You Can Help:
VOLUNTEER to work at the Golf Outing (shifts available from 9am-9pm). PLAY GOLF ATTEND OUR COCKTAIL HOUR & DINNER to celebrate our Honorees. BUY RAFFLE TICKETS for the pre-event raffle. (3 for $25, 7 for $50 or 15 for $100). Chinese Auction at the event. DONATE: Make a general donation to COPE (stock transfers are an option). Encourage friends and family to attend, support or donate to the event.
This year’s Pre-Raffle Prizes:
1st Prize: Apple Watch Series 2 ($399 value) 2nd Prize: Samsung 32inch LED TV ($169 value) 3nd Prize: Amazon Kindle Fire with 8 inch display ($119 value)

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COPE Labyrinth

COPE is now accepting memorial brick and bench orders for our next installation (specific date to be announced).
Memorial bricks are $200 and can include up to
3 lines of engraving, 14 characters per line.
A worksheet is available to help you with your character spacing.

To place a brick order, please print this form[https://www.copefoundation.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/brochure_COPE_forprint.pdf] & mail with a check to:
COPE
PO Box 1251
Melville, NY 11747

Should you have any questions, please contact Lynda at Lynda@copefoundation.org[mailto:Lynda@copefoundation.org].

About COPE Labyrinth:
COPE Foundation now has a permanent memorial labyrinth in Eisenhower Park’s Memorial Plaza, with bricks and benches dedicated to our children, siblings, and loved ones.
The labyrinth is an ancient symbolic path with healing and spiritual significance. It has been used within many cultures and spiritual traditions throughout the world.
For many, labyrinths represent life’s journey or spiritual pilgrimage.
Walking the labyrinth often produces a calming, centering feeling. This alternating balancing motion can quiet one’s body, mind and spirit, often inducing a receptive state for meditation and contemplation in the center of the labyrinth.

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COPE Monday Night Shore Parent Support Group

Merrick Jewish Center

Monday, May 1st,  7:00 – 8:30 p.m. SHARP

Join COPE and social worker Judy Hasnas for our South Shore Parent Support Group meeting at the Merrick Jewish Center (in the LIBRARY) which is located at 225 Fox Boulevard  Merrick, NY.  This group meets one Monday evening of the month at this time.  Judy Hasnas, LCSW, BCD, has a private practice in Bellmore, New York, and facilitated bereavement groups for parents of fire fighters who were killed on 9/11 as part of the Counseling Service Unit, FDNY.  She also worked as an independent contractor at the Steinway Child and Family Service of Howard Beach and was a social work coordinator at Bellevue Hospital Center.

For more information, please email info@copefoundation.org[mailto:Joy@copefoundation.org].

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COPE Monday Night Parent Support Group for

Parents New to COPE-East Meadow 

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)  

Monday, May 8th, 7:00- 8:30 p.m.  SHARP

The Monday night COPE North Shore group for parents NEW TO COPE will be facilitated by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, and will be held at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park, East Meadow NY at Field 6A.  For directions, please visit our website at www[https://www.copefoundation.org].[https://www.copefoundation.org]copefoundation[https://www.copefoundation.org].[https://www.copefoundation.org]org[https://www.copefoundation.org].

For more information, please email info@copefoundation.org.

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Tuesday DAYTIME Parent Support Group

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Tuesday, May 2nd, 1:00 – 2:30 p.m. SHARP

The DAYTIME Parent Support Group is facilitated by licensed social worker Janet Zimmerman. Janet is currently in private practice as a psychotherapist.  She previously ran bereavement groups for the Mid-Island JCC and has been a social worker for almost 40 years.  For more information or to express your interest, please contact Amy Olshever, COPE Clinical Director, at 516-418-6606.

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COPE Thursday Night North Shore Parent Support Group for Parents New to COPE – Jericho

Jericho Library
Thursday, May 11th,  7:00 – 8:30 p.m.  SHARP

Parents NEW TO COPE, please join us for our North Shore Parent Support Group meeting at the Jericho Public Library (1 Merry Lane in Jericho).

This group, which meets monthly, is facilitated by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, a licensed social worker with a private practice specializing in bereavement counseling and individual and family therapy. This is for parents NEW TO COPE, as Marilyn’s other Thursday and Monday groups are filled at this time.

For more information or to express your interest, please contact COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever at 516-418-6606.

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COPE Monday Night Parent Support Group-East Meadow

COPE House at Eisenhower Park (Field 6A)

Monday, MAy 15th,  7:30 – 9:00 p.m.  SHARP

The Monday night COPE North Shore group will meet this month. This group will be facilitated by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, and will be held at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park, East Meadow NY at Field 6A.  For directions, please visit our website at www[https://www.copefoundation.org].[https://www.copefoundation.org]copefoundation[https://www.copefoundation.org].[https://www.copefoundation.org]org[https://www.copefoundation.org].  This group is for parents who have been part of COPE.  New to COPE parents should plan on attending the meeting for Parents NEW to COPE.

For more information, please email info@copefoundation.org.

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Wednesday Night Western Suffolk County Parent Support Group

The Chai Center in Dix Hills
Wednesday, May 10th, 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. SHARP

Please join COPE and social worker Denise Fields for our Parent Support Group in Suffolk County, at the Chai Center in Dix Hills (501 Vanderbilt Parkway). Denise has a private psychotherapy practice in Dix Hills, specializing in bereavement.  She previously was a consultant to the Huntington School district, and ran bereavement groups for the Family Service League in Huntington.  

For more information, please email info@copefoundation.org.

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Wednesday DAYTIME Parent Support Group – East Meadow-
COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)
Wednesday, May 17th, 1:00 – 2:30 p.m. SHARP

The DAYTIME Parent Support Group, will meet on the third Wednesday of the month at the COPE House at Eisenhower Park (Field 6A) in East Meadow. The group is open to all current members and new members. The group is facilitated by licensed social worker Janet Zimmerman. Janet is currently in private practice as a psychotherapist.  She previously ran bereavement groups for the Mid-Island JCC and has been a social worker for almost 40 years.  For more information or to express your interest, please contact Amy Olshever, COPE Clinical Director, at 516-418-6606.

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COPE Thursday Night North Shore Parent Support Group for Established Parents

Syosset Library
Thursday, May 18th, 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. SHARP

Join COPE for our Two-Year Plus North Shore Parent Support Group meeting at the Syosset Public Library (225 So. Oyster Bay Road).

COPE will once again be joined by Marilyn Kohn, LCSW, a licensed social worker with a private practice specializing in bereavement counseling and individual and family therapy.  This is a group intended for parents whose loss occurred over two years ago.  Newly bereaved parents should feel free to attend one of COPE’s other support groups.

For more information, please email info@copefoundation.org.

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Grandparents Support Group 

COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)

Tuesday, May 9th, 2017, 6:30 – 8:00 pm

The Grandparents Support Group is for bereaved parents who have lost adult children with children. This group will be facilitated by Lisa Vitucci. Parents will discuss the dynamics involved in dealing with grandchildren and their surviving parent, can share their stories and discuss issues they may have in this different family relationship. Suggestions can be made as to how to deal with these issues. Lisa has more than ten years’ experience as a bereavement social worker for a hospice agency and is currently the Director of Social Work at ProHEALTH Care Support. Lisa can be reached with any questions at 516-808-5821[tel:(516)%20808-5821].

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Friday Night Central Suffolk County Parent Support Group-Ronkonkoma

United Methodist Church in Ronkonkoma

Friday, May 19th, 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. SHARP

Please join COPE and social worker Lisa Vitucci for our Central Suffolk County Parent Support Group at the United Methodist Church in Ronkonkoma (792 Hawkins Avenue Lake Grove, NY 11755, 631-588-5856).  Lisa has more than ten years’ experience as a bereavement social worker for a hospice agency and is currently the Director of Social Work at ProHEALTH Care Support.  Lisa can be reached with any questions at 516-808-5821. 

For more information or to express interest in this group, please email info@copefoundation.org.

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COPE Teen Grief Support Group (Ages 13-17)

COPE House in East Meadow (Field 6A in Eisenhower Park)

Thursdays, May 4th, 11th, 18th and 25th, 7:30 – 9:00 p.m.
** Spring Session will run for 7 weeks** 

Teens that have lost a sibling, parent, or significant loved one, please join COPE for our teen grief support group. The group is facilitated by Lauren Jukosky, LCSW.  Lauren recently served as a pediatric oncology social worker for the Steven & Alexandra Cohen Children’s Medical Center of New York where she provided supportive counseling and assisted families with understanding medical diagnoses and specialized in end-of-life counseling.  She also was a social worker at the New York Eye & Ear Infirmary in New York, and a group facilitator at the Center for HOPE (where she conducted bereavement support groups for bereaved children).

The Spring Session of our COPE Teen Grief Support Group  meets the second Thursday evening of every month at 7:30 p.m. at the COPE House in East Meadow, and will run for 7 weeks. Please express your interest to Clinical Director Amy Olshever at 516-418-6606. 

There is no cost to participate in this program. 

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Long Island Adult Sibling Group-East Meadow

COPE House at Eisenhower Park  (Field 6A)

Monday, May 22nd, 7:00 – 8:30 p.m. 

Please join COPE for our adult sibling group on Long Island at the COPE House in East Meadow.  For directions, please visit our website at www[https://www.copefoundation.org].[https://www.copefoundation.org]copefoundation[https://www.copefoundation.org].[https://www.copefoundation.org]org[https://www.copefoundation.org].  The group will be facilitated by licensed social worker Amy Kirschenblatt.  Amy is a social worker at Cohen’s Children’s Medical Center.  Previously, she worked in a prenatal care program at NSHS/LIJ.

 For more information, please email info@copefoundation.org.

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NYC Parent Support Group

On Hiatus

1177 Ave of Americas (@ 46th st.)

The New York City parent group, facilitated by social worker Bridgette Boucher, which met on the second Tuesday of every month at 1177 Avenue of the Americas at 46th Street floor C-2, Suite 0020 from 7:00-8:30 p.m. is CURRENTLY ON HIATUS awaiting additional interest. If you know of anyone interested in this group, please contact COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever at amyolshever@copefoundation.org[mailto:amyolshever@copefoundation.org].

Bridgette is currently a family therapist working with the Sloan Kettering Cancer Center and has a private practice in New York City. She was previously a therapist for the Ackerman Institute for the Family, treating families dealing with grief, substance abuse, domestic violence, trauma and relationship problems. For more information please contact Bridgette at boucher9175@gmail.com[mailto:boucher9175@gmail.com].

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NYC Adult Sibling Support Group
DASHA® Flagship, The Galleria, 115 East 57th Street, Suite 520
New York, NY, 10022
Friday, May 12th, 6:15 – 7:45 pm

We are pleased to announce that we will have restarted the NYC Adult sibling group at DASHA® Flagship, The Galleria, 115 East 57th Street, Suite 520, Manhattan.   

The group will be facilitated by one of our own Camp Erin Grief Chiefs, Jonathan Glotzer.  Jonathan has been practicing psychotherapy in the New York City area for over 17 years and is currently a Behavioral Health consultant for a private Human Resource consulting firm. He was also a clinical social work supervisor for both acute psychiatric inpatient and psychiatric emergency room services for Health and Hospitals Corporations (HHC), a NYC network of hospitals. Jonathan holds a B.A. in psychology from Binghamton University and a Master’s of Social Work from Adelphi University. He currently is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in the State of New York and has a private psychotherapy practice in the Chelsea section of NYC providing Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to adults and adolescents.

This group will meet monthly on the 2nd Friday of the month.

For more information, please email info@copefoundation.org.

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COPE  Young Children’s Grief Support Group (Ages 7-12)

On Hiatus
COPE House in East Meadow (Field 6A in Eisenhower Park)

The NEW Children’s Grief Support Group for kids ages 7-12 living with the loss of a loved one is on hiatus awaiting additional interest. If you are interested in your child joining an 8-week spring group, please contact COPE Clinical Director Amy Olshever at 516-418-6606 or amyolshever@copefoundation.org[mailto:amyolshever@copefoundation.org].

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Creative Writing Workshops

COPE House in Eisenhower Park

Evening: Wednesday, May 17th, 7:00 – 8:30p.m.
Daytime: Saturday, May 20th, 2:00 – 3:30 p.m. 

Please join COPE and Patty Rossi, published writer, to experience the power of the pen as a source of solace and comfort in the grieving process. These workshops will be devoted to writing and healing. Be part of this artistic venture. Come explore writing as a tool to console and soothe.  

Please RSVP to Patty at pattyed1@verizon.net[mailto:pattyed1@verizon.net] if you are interested in attending.

For more information, email info@copefoundation.org.

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Monthly Meditation
COPE House at Eisenhower Park in East Meadow (Field 6A)
TBA

The Monthly Meditation Group takes the place of the Spirituality Circle. Monthly Meditations will meet at the COPE House in Eisenhower Park in East Meadow.   Since space is limited please RSVP.

COPE hopes that all parents interested in meditation as an integral part of the healing process will attend these monthly get-togethers.  Some months will include guest speakers and healers. If you have any questions, please contact Lilly Julien at ljulien5@gmail.com[mailto:ljulien5@gmail.com].

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Integrative Healing Workshop Series
COPE House in Eisenhower Park
TBA

If you have any questions call
Clinical Director, Amy Olshever at 516-418-6606

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COPE Individual Peer Support/Mentor

Sign up to be a Peer Mentor or for Peer Support

For those bereaved parents and siblings not ready for a support group, or who wish to augment their support group experience with individual support, COPE offers “peer mentor support.”  If you are in need of a peer mentor (a parent or sibling who shares your particular loss), OR if you wish to act as a peer mentor to a newly bereaved parent or sibling, please contact info@copefoundation.org[mailto:joy@copefoundation.org].  Peer support is truly at the heart of COPE!

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Community Events

Please contact info@copefoundation.org with any community healing events to list in our newsletter.

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COPE General Donations
We thank the following people for making donations to COPE during the months of (late) March and April:

General Donations:
Taryn Joiner In Memory Of Aaron Mathews
Jacqueline Fludd 
Caryn Portnoy In Memory Of Sammi Mergentime
Carrie & Kenny Kaplan In Memory Of Michelle Julian
Shirley and Michael Heitler In Memory Of David Joshua Berg
Richard Sussman 

Camp Erin:
Deborah A O’Connor 
Andrew Hoch In Memory Of Sammi Mergentime
Albert R & Sandra Greenfeld 
Ruth Goldfarb In Honor Of Esther Bogin
Amy & Eric Gross 

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COPE Foundation
Eisenhower Park
Lannin Carriage House
East Meadow, NY 11554
Tel: (516) 832-2673
Email: info@copefoundation.org[mailto:Joy@copefoundation.org]
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