Words from COPE President and Founder, Lillian Julien
Dear COPE Families,
I live with a hole in my heart. Often around the holidays, I fall in.
I once had a dream that I fell into a manhole. Strangely, I landed on my feet. I began picking up pebbles and throwing them up to people on the street trying to get someone’s attention. No one heard me.
It was a great metaphor for my life back then when I tended to isolate, feeling alone in my grief, silently calling out for help.
As we approach Thanksgiving, it’s important to surround yourself with those who have stood by you, listened, and have demonstrated the capacity to speak about your loved one. It’s especially important at this time of year to fill the “hole” with love and gratitude for every thing and everyone who has sustained you.
I’ve found it takes effort to feel thanks and gratitude amidst the pain of separation.
I’ve found it helpful to focus on the love that forever lives in our hearts.
Wishing you a safe holiday filled with love and peace.